Comments on A blonde walks into a blog....: Do we ever REALLY grow up?

I am 50 something years old and things like that s...

2010-07-08T21:42:11.916-07:00

I am 50 something years old and things like that still hurt me!! For example on Facebook...I always comment on peoples pictures and posts and it seems those same people never comment on mine.....I sometimes want to say hey can anyone see me!!

I agree with previous posters - I think its natura...

2010-07-08T10:18:16.941-07:00

I agree with previous posters - I think its natural to hold onto feelings and insecurities from the past. My guess is that the way we handle them and approach them is the true sign of growing up.

Rejection absolutely hurts! No matter how old we g...

2010-07-08T09:06:21.490-07:00

Rejection absolutely hurts! No matter how old we get that is something that won't go away.

Sorry you had to go through 7 or 9 hours feeling lousy and questioning yourself. I've been there. It sucks.

It's almost comforting to know that other peop...

2010-07-07T20:54:35.950-07:00

It's almost comforting to know that other people still feel the same feelings I do. The older I get, the more I feel as if the mentality is we are eventually supposed to stop "feeling." That scares me. I don't want to stop "feeling." I want to be real. I want to experience emotions and watch others experience them as well. Thank you for giving me the realization that "feeling" never goes away. xoxo

Love, Mere

well this one hit a nerve! i think like this ofte...

2010-07-07T14:46:02.141-07:00

well this one hit a nerve!

i think like this oftentimes!

its not just insecurities...I think we are trying to protect ourselves from getting hurt...Never make someone a priority, when you are just an option to them.

I am reading this as I am currently going through ...

2010-07-07T14:12:27.758-07:00

I am reading this as I am currently going through this struggle of rejection with a dear friend of mine.

Ice cream, colorful band-aids and Grey's Anatomy quotes, of course, always help :)

Have a great day! Keep your head high!

I agree, ice cream makes things better. =)

2010-07-07T11:37:50.068-07:00

I agree, ice cream makes things better. =)

I use to take things super personal but over the y...

2010-07-07T10:36:21.068-07:00

I use to take things super personal but over the years I've just learned to let it go.

This is a great post. I completely agree with you...

2010-07-07T10:21:29.317-07:00

This is a great post. I completely agree with you on how we are all truly still just kids. Kids with a better way of handling things than we used to. But sometimes we just want to break down and be a kid. I know what you mean completely.

I especially liked the inner monologue part of your post. It sounds exactly like something I would think.

love it! I totally agree, we are all just little ...

2010-07-07T09:04:16.629-07:00

love it! I totally agree, we are all just little kids at heart. Sometimes when I go to Panera and they are out of black bean soup, I want to throw myself on the floor and kick and scream. haha. ; )

Just found your blog. LOVE it! Great writing style...

2010-07-07T06:34:47.700-07:00

Just found your blog. LOVE it! Great writing style :)

Jules, I love the way you can connect a brilliant ...

2010-07-06T21:46:57.602-07:00

Jules, I love the way you can connect a brilliant "Grey's Anatomy" quote to life. Sometimes, it is the small thing that can unearth some hidden insecurities, but loved ones and ice cream will always be a great cure.

Girl, I totally get that! It's amazing how qui...

2010-07-06T20:20:08.124-07:00

Girl, I totally get that! It's amazing how quick rejection can sting, no matter how secure you're feeling!

i love your honesty and i can relate completely. i...

2010-07-06T19:24:50.503-07:00

i love your honesty and i can relate completely. i am normally not phased by little things but every once in a while something will get me and my insecurities come running out. it sucks but then you move on.

It's funny you write about this because I'...

2010-07-06T19:11:18.082-07:00

It's funny you write about this because I've been going through some very very similar things with my friends. It's hard when you start you own families and things change. Priorities change but you still want to feel included and it does suck when you feel left out especially when you know that you have been there for all of them!
I guess it's just something that we need to accept and remember whats really important in our lives.

I love that quote from Grey's, lol. That inne...

2010-07-06T18:32:15.417-07:00

I love that quote from Grey's, lol.

That inner dialogue is something I'd totally say to myself. The sting of rejection or not feeling appreciated is something I deal with often.

*HUGS*

I would totally feel the same way. While my "...

2010-07-06T18:04:53.703-07:00

I would totally feel the same way. While my "not growing up" feeling isn't about not being invited to a party, I've recently had a lot of moments where I still wanted to be a little girl for a minute. Ice cream certainly helps!

Ouch- that's exactly how I feel a lot. I get ...

2010-07-06T18:01:31.152-07:00

Ouch- that's exactly how I feel a lot. I get so upset (on the inside) about things. Why didn't she pick me as a bridesmaid? Why did he use that tone with me? etc. etc.

Good to know I'm not the only one that still feels that way!

Yeah.. I try to be a good friend too but sometimes...

2010-07-06T17:55:52.661-07:00

Yeah.. I try to be a good friend too but sometimes, something happens. Unfortunately now that we're adults, sometimes we just have to put our big girl pants on and move on. :( I want ice cream now.

The comment from Grey's said it all "we&#...

2010-07-06T16:59:34.290-07:00

The comment from Grey's said it all "we're still a bunch of kids, running around the playground, trying desperately to fit in."

It's true.

We want to be liked because it feels better than being rejected.

Some people can grow up and never care about other people, and to some degree most of us don't care what other people think or say about us.

But then there are those, that we are so emotionally invested in that when they reject us, it sucks and it hurts.

But it's all a learning experience and we do grow from it.

Aaaw i can totally relate to this, thanks for shar...

2010-07-06T15:14:47.133-07:00

Aaaw i can totally relate to this, thanks for sharing! BTW that little fockers trailer looks sooo cute :)

Wonderful post!! Sometimes it's so hard for me...

2010-07-06T14:26:03.791-07:00

Wonderful post!! Sometimes it's so hard for me to not take things personal and let insecurites get me down. I'm a lot better at it now than I used to be. Some things I just need to learn to let go.

Wonderful post

2010-07-06T14:25:46.137-07:00

Wonderful post

I totally get how you feel. I've felt exclude...

2010-07-06T14:02:20.245-07:00

I totally get how you feel. I've felt excluded before too, when I haven't been invited to do something.

A long time ago, a coworker that I shared a cubicle with was having a party. She talked about it a little bit and some other coworkers mentioned it too and asked if I was going. I was really hurt that I never got an invitation but didn't say anything as I had to work right next to this girl everyday so I figured it would be best not to. The party came and went and my coworker asked why I didn't come. I told her I wasn't invited. I actually did get an invitation only it got mixed up amongst a bunch of paperwork for work and I never saw it until I went back to look for it.

Maybe your invitation got lost in the mail?

Hey cutie... and I love this post. I found myself ...

2010-07-06T13:50:44.237-07:00

Hey cutie... and I love this post. I found myself nodding with every line. It hurts when we know we've done everything we can for a friend, but then the drama inserts. I think adults are better at walking away. Come stop by today to find out what the best advice given to me about dieting and honeymoon travel was!